Reward for Poor Performance

Hold on to your seats....even in this economy people are still performing below standard. Continue to hold on to your seats because the reward for poor performance is less work. No, I am not kidding. A woman at my job has been absent excessively and when she comes to work she performs as if she is still at home. Now get this....today they rewarded her by taking her work load and giving it to everyone on the team. You would think that this means she doesn't have a job...no, she now has even more free time with the same paycheck. Ugghhhh! So now I have to work harder because she didn't work from the beginning. She will get to show up and have a smaller work load. Help! Someone help me come to terms with this type of reward for bad behavior. How would you feel if your work load increased by 50% because of someone else who receives no decrease in pay? What should I say to the leader of this company?

Selfish people...

In the past several weeks, I have had conversations with different people about different examples of selfish behavior. The theme is clear....2009 is the year of the selfish. What is your definition of selfish? Give me an example. Here's mine....When you ask more of your friend, partner, spouse, children...etc than you give to them. There are varying degrees of selfishness in my opinion. A small degree....calling someone and only talking with them on the cell phone until you get to your destination....LOL

Harlem Globetrotters....the tradition continues

As a child, my father spent time one on one time with me. When the Globetrotters were in town we would attend the event. He would treat me with care and love. The event is a fun, family event. Now another generation can share in the memories.

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Click the link above to see the father/daughter picture from the event on Saturday. My husband's way of sharing in the tradition:)

We have to make sure that our daughters understand what it feels like to get positive attention from a man:) Fathers, your daughters are looking to you for inside information about the opposite sex....how you are may directly impact who they date:)

Question: What is the impact of a positive father on a young girl's life? What is the impact of a negative or absent father?
Mothers: What are you doing to encourage the father/daughter relationships?

Fear not......

Recently, I had the opportunity to speak with a group of teens in an open forum. In exploring the topic of fear, I realized that they only thought of fear as being afraid of insects, heights, parents...etc. Upon asking them to dig deeper, we began to explore the fears of failure. They were expressing their deep darkest fears of being alone, not going to college, never being loved...etc. Then, one teen asked me what was my biggest fear.....(silence). How did they flip this to talking about me and trying to make me think..? :-) So, I had to admit that I have plenty of fears (scream) and one of them is the fear of being misunderstood. Hence, the blog in which I come out of my comfort zone and share my thoughts without worrying (not all of the time) about you misunderstanding...Okay, I am still working on it...LOL So, now I am turning the tables on you....What are you fearful of and why?

Open mouth insert foot....

Okay Tika jump in on this one. Read carefully. This is a script....
Coworker: wow...you have a pouch?
Me: huh?
Coworker: you have put on some pounds, huh?
Me: what?
Coworker: are you in the motherly way?
Me: (angry face:(
Coworker: well, you look good with the extra pounds...how much are we talking?
The bubble over my head grew....filled with all kinds of words that I could have said ...but I walk away...taking all of my extra pounds with me.....LOL

Question: How would you have reacted? What do you say when coworkers say personal things that may impact your self-image?

How many minutes a day do you spend talking with your child?

On a radio show yesterday they stated that research shows the average father talks with his children seven minutes a day and the average mother talks with her children thirty minutes a day. The radio host stated that this is quality conversation....not the "stop, sit down, stop fighting" that we shout through the house:) My question to you is....How many minutes do you spend talking with your children? If it is lower than you want it to be, what are you going to do to change it? If it is higher than the average...let us know your secrets and strategies on increasing the minutes.

Inspiring others to give....

After my surprise birthday party, my cousin sent me another gift in the mail. She sent me a picture book which documented the events of the party. Words cannot express how wonderful it was to open the package and see all of the smiling faces:) This inspired me to want to have a positive impact on someone else's life.....The results have been amazing. I could hear the love and laughter in my sister's voice when she called after receiving something from me in the mail. This leads me to my question for you......What have you done this week to inspire someone else to do something positive? What impact have you made on the lives of others?

Thanks Kim...you are an inspiration!

Father, Daughter Time

What father/daughter memories do you have? What are you doing to make sure your daughter remembers you in a positive light?